When I grow up I want to be a... rinser.

Tonight I watched Sex, Lies and Rinsing Guys on Channel 4. The name itself intrigued me so I gave it a watch. I have to say though, having watched it I am somewhat ashamed that females like this exist. I thought it only happened in films like Breakfast at Tiffany’s and Priceless. I wouldn’t say I’m a hardcore feminist, but I definitely support feminism to the extent of females being equal to men, thus it takes a lot to make me say a statement like that. Before I continue let me iterate that it’s a fascinating watch nonetheless.

The show effectively followed “mutual relationships” in which glamorous girls use their charm, looks and overall beauty to receive gifts and allowances from men. It’s called rinsing. It’s shameful. But, before you judge, it’s OKAY because they have a strict rule of no sex. Round of applause for them. By all means let’s forget the work the suffragettes accomplished to get women the right to vote, and all the campaigns women have fought to become respected in the workplace and even in life itself.

And then you come across the women in this documentary. Granted they make an effort with their looks, you can’t argue with that. And I believe women and men alike should do this. But the sole purpose of their appearance is to “rinse” rich and successful men. Now some might argue that the men are blind fools for providing them with the opportunities, and I would agree with you – to an extent. But it’s the fact that the women prey on men with full intentions of getting whatever they can from them that does it for me. They prey on loneliness. My heart sunk on hearing one woman’s reasoning being “What’s the point in scrimping and saving all your life when some muppet down the road is going to give you a grand a month to live off?” I lost my rag at this point, it’s like the kind of reasoning a benefit thief would utilise against the hard working taxpayers. The point? Are you serious? The point is to achieve something in life. What happened to career ambitions? Why would you want to achieve nothing other than a wardrobe full of material gifts? They are living a glamorous life off of the back of someone else. These women are setting the worst type of example to young girls, more so because a few of them had children who were being brought up surrounded by this culture.

Having watched this documentary it only reinforces my desire to work hard to go against this growing breed of rinsers. I want to have made something of my life which I can look back on and be fully proud of what I will have achieved as an independent and hardworking female.